Healing After The Death Of A Parent

Posted on January 21, 2019 by Karen Reardon under Cremations, Funeral Home
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When your mother or father passes on, it can be a strong, deep hurt. Our parents love us deeply and their love is the most unconditional love we experience. Parents are the people who care for us as we are children and bring us up into the world. Now, you have to put together services with a funeral home and cremations provider in Indian Trail, NC while you deal with your emotions and grief.  

Your Grief Is Unique 

One of the first things you should recognize after your parent passes on is that your grief is unique. No one else will grieve just the way you do and no one else has the relationship with your parent you do—even your siblings. Your emotions will be influenced by the type of relationship you had to your parent, the circumstances around their death, your support system, your culture, and your religious beliefs, among others. You will grieve in your own time and in your own way. Don’t compare your experience to others and assume you’ll move on as fast as others have. Take things one day at a time and go at your own pace.  

Expect A Wide Array Of Emotions 

The parent-child bond is one of the tightest in the world and one of the most fundamental as well. When your parent dies, that bond feels torn and you will feel a wide array of emotions in response. You might feel numb, confused, guilty, angry, or even relieved that they are no longer suffering. The emotions might come all at once, or in rapid succession. While your emotions are unique, some of the most common include:  

  • Sadness 

Of course you’ll feel sad when your parent dies and you might be overwhelmed by the depth of that feeling. Your parent is someone who cared for you like no one else has and you might feel as if you’ll never be the same again.  

  • Guilt 

If there was something you wanted to tell your parent, but never did, or you weren’t able to be there for them when they died, you could feel guilty. There are a number of other reasons guilt can arise as well.  

  • Relief 

If your parent was sick for some time or required a lot of taxing extra care, you may feel relieved at their passing, which can later lead to a guilty feeling.  

No matter what you are feeling or how fast the emotions are whirling, you’re going to need help from an Indian Trail, NC funeral home and cremations provider to get through the final services. Contact Heritage Funeral & Cremation Services at (704) 846-3771 or visit us at 3700 Forest Lawn Dr Matthews, NC 28104 and we’ll take care of all the details once you make the big decisions. It’s our job to relieve you of as many burdens as possible so you can grieve in whatever way you need to grieve. We’re here for you and we’ll treat your parent with respect at all times.