Addressing An Upcoming Death

Posted on January 28, 2019 by Karen Reardon under Cremations, Funeral Home
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It’s hard enough to deal with the death of a loved one when it occurs, but it can be even harder to deal with grief when you know someone in your family is ill and about to pass on. Contact a Waxhaw, NC funeral home and cremations provider to help you put the details into place as soon as you can. That way, when the time comes, you are ready and you can mourn with the rest of your family, as you should.  

The Shocking News 

Some deaths come as a shock while others are more expected. You might still be shocked to learn that a family member is on the path to death sooner rather than later. If an onset of an illness is unexpected or you have just heard the news that a loved one isn’t going to live much longer, you might feel shocked and numb at first. This painful news is hard to handle and you can only cope with it in doses. Once you understand what is happening, you will come to accept it.  

Cope With Family 

How you handle the illness in the family member will depend a lot on how your family is dealing with it. If you’ve had an open, honest relationship with one another before, the illness won’t change anything. You may continue to talk about your feelings and the problems you are having dealing with the issue. Either way, everyone needs to acknowledge that death is imminent and the capacity to understand is sometimes limited in some people.  

Change Roles And Adjust 

It’s hard to adjust a family to new roles when the person who filled them before is still around. If it’s your parent that is about to pass on, you might feel like you have become the caretaker and they the child. The roles have reversed and that can be very hard. Use your support system to help you cope with the new role you have to take on for the time being.  

Accept Outside Help 

When someone close to you is ill, you want to spend as much time with them as you can. Allow friends and more distant family members to help as much as they can. Have groceries delivered or let someone pick them up for you. Allow someone to come do your cleaning for you and pick up and drop off your kids as needed. The people in your life want to help you in any way they can and asking them to pitch in will make them feel like they are supporting you. You will need their help both now and later, when the death occurs.  

If you’re dealing with an ill family member who is going to pass on, use a Waxhaw, NC funeral home and cremations provider to get the information you need on planning services. It’s hard to plan a funeral for someone who is still with you, but at the same time, it can be even harder after they pass. Whenever you need us, call Heritage Funeral & Cremation Services at (704) 846-3771 and we’ll help. We’re located at 3700 Forest Lawn Dr Matthews, NC 28104.